So what is imposter syndrome? Imposter syndrome is when we don’t feel worthy or entitled to do something, leaving us with feelings of inadequacy and a lack of belief in ourselves.
According to Wikipedia, it is a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts their skills, talents or accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a “fraud”.
The root of imposter syndrome
So what is at the root of imposter syndrome? I would suggest that imposter syndrome is all about your relationship with yourself.
How you feel about yourself. How you compare yourself to others. What is your sense of identity? How do you see yourself in the world?
Important questions to ask
Do you feel that you have achieved success in your life? How do you see yourself as a person? Do you believe in yourself? If not, why not? What has happened in your past that makes you doubt yourself?
What have you gone through in life? What challenges have you overcome? How have you navigated the most difficult periods in your life? How have you dealt with adversity and struggle?
It’s all made up!
Imposter syndrome is a construct in your mind and it has no foundation whatsoever. It has manifested from a series of deep rooted negative beliefs about yourself.
Having the feeling that you don’t belong in a particular arena, or profession, or business, is just another way of saying to yourself that I am not good enough.
Well the truth is you ARE good enough. Why wouldn’t you be? Look at your achievements. Look at the struggles you’ve overcome. If you were to write a list of your achievements down on paper, I bet you could come up with many.
One simple exercise you can do to help with imposter syndrome is to make a note of all the reasons why you should pursue what you want to pursue. In other words, what is your motivation? Why do you want to do what you want to do?
List your strengths!
When you’ve finished that, make a list of all the reasons why you are the right person for the job. For example, your gifts, your talents, your abilities. Your character traits. Your values. Your morals. Your principles. Why are you special?
Time is now!
You only get one life. Be who you want to be. Don’t allow the negative voices in your head to influence your journey. You are bigger than that. You are worth more than that. Learn to value yourself.
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